You really are not the only person who finds the Yosemite Experience frustrating.
Just imagine how the rangers feel - they come into the office every single day to a pile of faxed wilderness permit requests a foot deep. Then when they are supposed to start answering the phones, they ring alllllllllll day, and when they answer there is some poor fella who's been hitting redial and listening to busy signals since two hours ago, rightfully frustrated that they were the fourth fax in the pile and got denied their permit and now what the $#%@^ are they doing for vacation when everyone in the family wanted to go to Little Yosemite Valley to have their food swiped by bears while they attempt Half Dome? I've faxed in and received an email
ten minutes later telling me I didn't get the itinerary, first second or third choice. The system is pretty impressive.
And then there's the line of people who slept on the porch all night come in, get the whole lecture on current conditions, fires burning in the park, trail closures, bear safety and where to camp. Sometimes folks try to convince the ranger they don't need a bear can. Seriously - I stood in the Wawona office listening to a couple insist that because they were going overnight, they would eat all the powerbars before bed and hike back to the car first thing in the morning, they did not need that f'ing bear can. You'd think they actually believed the bear can was to protect their food instead of protecting the bear. They were rented a bear can.
And then, there's the yokels on the trails. Here's mr. ranger with his taser and his handgun, coming along to find that not only are people hanging food bags (badly, six feet from the ground) and not only are they digging catholes in the middle of an established campground and not only are they washing their pots and pans in the lake, they get all upset and make him pull the taser when all he wants is for them to leave because they ignored the permitting process! And then - the pot growers! They certainly didn't get a permit, and they're better armed than the rangers.
It is very, very frustrating to try to get a campsite in any of the campgrounds, or a wilderness permit, or one of the lodge rooms or tent cabins. But it's Yosemite and I love it enough to keep reserving permits whenever I can, or to stand in line at 5:30 am listening to people snore on the porch. I actually like to help people navigate the system, which is why I had such a hard time giving accurate info to the guy who was walking with his backpack in the rain along Mirror Lakes trail, asking where the trail to Half Dome was, an open beer in hand and six more in the side pockets of his pack. At 2 in the afternoon, he wanted to hike in the rain to Half Dome. Climb a peak in a storm with dark approaching - real smart.
I think the rangers are doing the best they can. They answer the same question a billion times a day and hand it out in a bunch of ways. All the information you need is on the website, on signs around the park, in the literature at the park gate, on the white boards at the park gate and in the wilderness center the day of the trip. I know it's not easy at first, but it gets easier, and there are forums where one can go to vent and get information from people who've been there and done that, too. People have shown up in other forums I visit wailing about how impossible it is, whhhhyyyy does it take a year's advance reservation to get a campsite, is it really that busy? Oh, yes, it is. Sorry. But there are other things you can do, like show up early in the morning to get a first come/first serve site, or stay outside the park.... and the learning curve starts.